When you’re unwell, do you allow others to take care of you, or do you prefer to soldier on alone? What does it take for you to ask for help?
Normally if I’m unwell because of a cough or cold, I take care of it myself. There are times I’d like to get help. A while ago I suddenly felt very ill, my legs were tired, I had difficulty breathing, I told my husband I really felt sick. He of course did not take it seriously, he was of the opinion, I had gained weight therefore all I had to do was to lose the excess weight.
This feeling of being unwell went on for some time. One day I told my husband, I was really sick. I explained the symptoms, he got very concerned, he immediately made an appointment for me to see an internist.
I went to see this physician one day. He looked at me and asked me to tell him in detail, how I felt. As I spoke he listened quietly, when I finished, he told me right away, I had hypothyroid, and I’ll have to take off from my teaching job for six weeks.
I realized it was too long, what will the kids do, if I’m off for so long. When I told him how I felt about it, he explained I needed rest and I must not worry about the kids, it was the responsibility of the administration to find a substitute to replace me for that period of time.
This was the time I needed help, I could not fix my problem by myself.