What is the thing you’re most scared to do? What would it take to get you to do it?
There are quite a few things I am afraid to do, one of them is cooking for a large number of people, I fear if the food is not tasty, there’ll be criticism coming from the invitees, this is one thing I fear the most. I do not take criticism lightly, it bothers me for a long time.
I have invited a large number of people for dinner a few times, it is the feeling whether they’ll like my cooking or not is one I find difficult to deal with.
Tell us about the harshest ,most difficult to hear— but accurate criticism you’ve ever gotten. Does it still apply?
When I was fourteen my newly married eldest brother, told me I was never going to be anything,because I did not put in the time to study, he was going to marry me off to a farmer, according to him ,it was the best punishment for me.
His new wife complained I was watching too many movies and wasting my time, I had only watched one movie with my aunt who wanted company, and asked me if I’d go with her to watch a movie.
My sister-in- law was peeved because she was not invited, she complained I was not studying.
The criticism was not accurate, I wasn’t a poor student, he knew that, he had to please his wife.
It certainly didn’t apply then and not now either.
Since that time I have successfully completed all the courses of studies I registered for. In the ensuing years he never repeated those terrible words, I did not give him any reason to.
One thing I’m sure about is my father, if he was alive then and heard my brother say those words to me, he’d tell him to pack his bags and leave.
How are you at receiving criticism? Do you prefer that others treat you with kid gloves, or go for brutal honesty?
When we interact with human beings it is not unlikely that we’ll face criticism. I do not prefer to be treated with kid gloves, I like honest criticism which will help me in the long run.
I do not like personal attacks by anyone simply because it causes a lot of problem to the one who receives it.
Our world has improved and advanced in many fields but there seems to be no change in human behavior towards each other, for instance if you are from a certain country you’re immediately branded as a bad person.
I haven’t seen or heard of any place in this world where everyone is honest, kind, and truthful .
One of the worst forms of criticism is doing it silently, you are not criticized vocally but the way they treat you becomes obvious that they are back biting against you.