DP Daily Prompts: Unequal Terms

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Did you know today is Blog action Day? Join bloggers from around the world and write a post about what inequality means to you. Have you encountered it in your daily life?

The dictionary defines “Inequality” as lack of equality between persons or things.There are many others, but I’d like to write a post on inequality between persons.

Back from the stone age to now, the world has undergone a huge change,everything has improved the way we live , our speech, education, inventions, the way we dress.

What didn’t seem to change is our perception of dealing with people, we are holding on to the age old tradition of treating people differently according to where they’re from.

If a certain person is from a developing country they surely lack in education knowledge as compared to those  from developing countries. Who made this distinction, well it’s passed from generation to generation,this is a stark example of inequality.

I happen to be from a part of the world called a  developing country, who coined this word and why, is difficult to decipher, it used to be ‘under developed’ it’s a term not used anymore but is replaced by developing because people have realized it’s not politically correct, how long it will continue to be called  that, is hard to guess, but this much is certain, this term has already divided us, we are not in their league.

This kind of inequality will remain I think because it makes the developed countries superior in comparison.

Have I encountered this in my daily life,yes I have!

https://sabethville.wordpress.com/2014/10/16/dp-daily-prompts-unequal-terms/

 

365 Writing Prompts: Regrets I’ve had a few

What’s your biggest regret?How would your life have been different if you’d made another decision?

We are human beings after all, we are never satisfied with what we have we feel life would be different if we made a different choice.

As a child growing up I loved to learn to sing, because music was my favorite, I loved to listen,sing, I enjoyed it immensely. My mother thought it should only be heard and enjoyed, it wasn’t something you spend your days learning, in other words it was not a career her child should choose.

She wanted her children to have the right education, music wasn’t one of them. So I studied, art,history,geography and all the other subjects which counts to have good education.

Regrets,sure mine was I could have studied and learned to sing as well,but that was not an option, I was only twelve or perhaps thirteen,what did I know, at that age I needed guidance and my mom helped me with it.

Time they say heals all wounds, I suppose mine is  healed too.

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DP Daily Prompt: Favorite Mistake

Is there a mistake you’ve made that turned out to be a blessing– or otherwise changed your life for the better? Tell us about it.

Usually mistakes are never welcome because they can change one’s life for good, sometimes they are a blessing in disguise.

Before going to London, my sister gave two dollars each to our younger siblings. All the younger ones bought snacks and ate them, one of my brothers spent the money to play a crossword puzzle. When he saw the siblings were enjoying the snacks he felt terrible, he deprived himself was the only thought in his mind, he came to me and expressed his remorse for wasting the money on a crossword puzzle. I consoled him and said, “It’s okay maybe next time you’ll buy snacks instead of wasting your money.”

We forgot about this incident my brother recovered from this loss and he was his usual self joking and laughing, perhaps he still felt hurt inwardly but you couldn’t tell from his expression.

A few days later my mother handed us the newspaper, we always quarreled with each other,who’d read the news first, the paper changed hands and finally landed in my younger brother’s hand, his first reaction was to check the crossword puzzle result, he started checking the correct words with those he  filled in, one at a time he found his answers were correct, when he came to the last one, he noticed it also matched his entry, it was difficult for him to believe he had an all correct entry, he kept rubbing his eyes and checking, after checking several times he realized he did have an all correct entry. 

There were three all correct entries and he was one of them. He was very generous he shared part of  the money with everyone in the family.

It changed my brother’s life, he saved the money and used it for his education.

https://sabethville.wordpress.com/2014/06/15/dp-daily-promp…vorite-mistake/

Writing Prompt: Decisions,decisions

How are you likely to make an important decision__ by reasoning through it, or by going with your gut?

 

If I have to make an important decision I do not rely on my gut feeling,to me if it is important I must use reasoning and not gut.

I have made quite a few decisions in my life, they were always based on careful reasoning, I didn’t want to do something which will haunt my entire life.

When I was a student my aim was to pursue my studies as long as I can depend on my brothers to help me financially. I was  fortunate they did not disappoint me. 

Then came a time when I wanted to study further and felt it was not fair on my part to expect help from my brothers any more. I did what in my mind was the right thing,I applied for a scholarship. I thought it out and knew it was time  for me to see if I can be independent.  Luckily I got what I wanted and within a year I was qualified to teach. I chose my path of teaching and never regretted it.

True there were obstacles I independently decided what I must do. I had siblings whom I could ask, I wasn’t sure I could use their advice. 

After completing my education I took the teaching job, I quit when I felt the particular institution failed to satisfy me!

https://sabethville.wordpress.com/2014/04/12/365-days-april12th-decisions,decisions/

DP Daily Prompt: Qeu Sera Sera

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Do you believe in fate or do you believe you can control your own destiny.

I am not sure what I believe in, in fate or I can control my own destiny. The song “Que Sera Sera “, is a favorite song of mine. I heard it a long time ago.I didn’t really think about the lyrics,then or even now.

Today’s prompt makes me think  do I believe in fate or do I believe in controlling my own destiny. I believe in both.

My fate exposed me to various things I could do with my life, study or stop studying. I controlled my destiny by choosing the former. I kept going until I felt my brothers have contributed towards my studies long enough,I should see if I can get some help in way of  a scholarship to study further. Fate helped me to get what I wanted and I controlled my destiny by making sure I was successful each time.

I felt I had studied enough it was time for me to look for a job. I got the first one I applied for,eleven months later I made up my mind to leave the job and look for another.My second job proved too taxing for my health and well-being , I quit that one for good. 

I always knew I was qualified enough to get a teaching job in the city,I was not disappointed.

Marriage changed the picture, I relied on fate solely,wherever my husband found work I’d have to go there,which is what I did. There was no room for controlling my destiny. So like Doris Day I thought “whatever will be, will be.”

Yes I have children,they don’t ask me, “will I be handsome will I be rich?” If they did I’d  only say whatever will be,will be.”You will be what you want to be.

Once again I have decided to control my destiny by registering for on-line courses, it was something I had very little knowledge of, here I am once again controlling my destiny by continuing with the courses.

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DP Daily Prompt:Sixteen Tons

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How do you feel about your job? Do you spring out of bed,looking forward to work? Or, is your job a soul destroying monotony of pure drudgery, or somewhere in between?

I asked the same question to a cook who earns his livelihood by frying fish and selling them to passers by,he took exception to my question,he thought I was making fun of him.

At first he couldn’t quite comprehend what I was getting at, he took a few moments and threw the question right back at me,he began “would you like to fry fish by the road side and hope someone will kindly buy this?”

I was flabbergasted, at first it seemed someone had sealed my mouth, then gently I said, “I am not asking you to make fun of you, I do sympathize with you,it doesn’t seem you like your job, why are you unhappy,it’s obvious to me you couldn’t find a suitable job,rather than stay at home and watch your wife and children starve you decided to do something to feed your family.”

The man realized I was not joking, he started telling me his story, he was one of four brothers in his family, he was the youngest,as a child he spent time playing in the neighborhood,he had a few friends, and they all liked to play and didn’t think one day they’d be older and would have to work for a living.

His three older brothers finished school and they all had decent jobs. He was the only one who wasted his time. He got married thinking he’d do something, there were plenty of jobs he could get. One thing escaped his mind the fact that he had no skill and no one was interested to hire him.

A time came when people sneered at him  and showed him the door when they saw him.In the meantime his family was growing, his brothers refused to help him, dejected he chose the path of frying fish to sell so that he could feed his family.

I felt bad for him and bought a few fried fish as I was eating he opened up to me, he said he hated his job,there are a lot of unkind people they make fun of him ,he tries to ignore them, but he is a human being and it hurts him to hear them calling him names. He finds it difficult to get out of bed, he does not look forward to frying fish yet another day. He is bored and wishes he had followed the path of his brothers,got an education and like them got a decent job.

He said his life is not going to change but he’d make sure he’d send his kids to school and get a proper education,so that they’d have a better future than him.

http://dailypost.wordpress.com/2014/03/24/daily-prompt-sixteen-tons/

DP Weekly writing Challenge: A synopsis of my memoir

I spent eleven years of my life as a happy go lucky child with very little to complain. Suddenly at age twelve  things were different, I wasn’t carefree anymore. My most important person my Dad passed away.

I with the rest of my family had to move to a place which never felt like home. My mom had difficulty making ends meet. We were scared not knowing what the future holds for us.

Suddenly instead of Dad my eldest brother took over the  family affairs. He was inexperienced, young and lacked patience which was crucial for the head of a large family.We moved from our Granpa’s village to Comilla .  We were hardly settled in our new home, when our eldest brother decided to get married. No one in the family was prepared.

To make matters worse my older brother tried his hand in business, which was completely out of his league. Within a year he lost all the money Dad left for us.

I was barely fourteen but understood what a difficult road lay before us. My second eldest brother was an accountant,he came to our rescue. Whatever he contributed wasn’t enough to meet the family’s needs. My fourth brother agreed to help out.

We were doing fine but we lost all our enthusiasm  in life, we spoke softly, we tried to focus on our studies. We believed education will bail us out of our misery.

Slowly but surely we were moving along hoping the coming days  will be brighter.

I completed my high school exam successfully. I studied four years in two different colleges. After completion I went on to do my masters degree followed by an education degree. For me the years were passing ever so slowly, I needed to work to support myself to avoid being a burden to the rest of the family members.

After completing my education I took the first job offered to me. I taught for eleven months. I then moved to the bigger city to try my luck. I got the job I wanted but was unaware there were some strings attached, the position included looking after seventy-five kids ranging in ages from five to twelve.

I found myself waking up at 5 a.m and going to bed at midnight. This took a toll on my health. I could not complain , I decided to bide my time and leave this place at the first available opportunity. It came when I received a scholarship to study in England. The administration put a number of road blocks on my way to freedom. I was able to break those barriers by my firm resolve.

I went to London for a year and, completed the diploma of ,’Teaching English as a Foreign language.”

When I came back there were jobs I could get but there was a catch none of the places had living quarters for teachers. I stayed six months at home, I was waiting to get a place to live in the city where I intended to teach. Luckily I got one but it didn’t last long because it was a girl’s college hostel and some of the students didn’t like us(other women and I)to live in the hostel, because we were not students.

There were five of us we managed to rent an apartment on the fifth floor. There was no elevator in the building, once we came back after work we never went out it was difficult to climb those stairs more than once.

After a few months I was married to a physician who lived in Montreal. I stayed with my husband’s parents in a remote village which was accessible only by boat. Seven months after my marriage I came to Montreal to join my husband.

My husband was not allowed to practice in Montreal because he was not a Canadian citizen. To be eligible to practice he’d have to wait for two more years, this was the condition only In Quebec.

Our destiny moved us to Gander, Newfoundland , fortunately my husband was able to practice there because he was an immigrant. We made Gander our home hoping to move back to Montreal after two years. A year later my husband’s boss who had promised to hand over his practice to my husband died in a highway accident. A year and a half later my husband had a myocardial infarction. After this incident we gave up the idea of moving out of Gander.

I taught In Gander for a while. My husband had health issues particularly with his heart, we decided to move to the capital because the facilities were much better.

My life after age twelve until I completed my education was the worst years of my life. It was better after I finished my education and started working.

Young people face more challenges today than me, ours was different we were not bombarded with technological advance.

http://sabethvillewordpress.com /2014/03/11/march-11-weekly writing challenge-a synopsis of my memoir/

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Writing Prompt: All Grown Up

When was the first time I really felt like a Grown Up.

This is one question I asked myself time and time again,but came up with no answer. I remember I had finished my education and started working in a school. You would think I should be grown up,I did too but my mom did not think so. How can that be, well I asked my mom one day if I could visit one of my friends, in reply she said yes but I must be back within the hour. Technically at that age I shouldn’t ask for permission,rather tell her I’m going to my friend’s house and will be back whenever.

I was twenty-two then. Now I really have to think hard and wonder when did I really consider myself grown up? I think when I left home and started teaching in a school outside my home town.

Thankfully I did start to feel I was grown up when I was my own boss,I did not have to take permission to go somewhere.

https://sabethville.wordpress.com/2014/03/06/365-days-march 06-all grown up/

Writing Prompt: Childhood Revisited

Yes,I turned out pretty good, but the thing I would have liked different was to have my Dad longer than twelve years. To make him proud that despite my flimsy excuses of skipping school. I was able to continue and complete my education.

I would also have liked to be able to live in Rawalpindi rather than Bangladesh. My reason is I was comfortable there and I had friends whom I would have liked to be with,even after the completion of my education.

I have nothing against Bangladesh,my parents are from there. We adapted very quickly,we knew the language,thanks to my Dad who taught us how important it is to know one’s mother tongue. I missed my childhood friends, it’s the only reason and also my Dad’s presence in our lives would have been awesome.

“I know the saying man proposes,God disposes.”

I have kids they were fortunate to complete their education in Canada . This is what I wished and luckily my wish was granted.

https://sabethville.wordpress.com/2014/02/09/ 365-days-feb 8th-childhood revisited/

DP Daily Prompt: Interplanet Janet

The weather in my planet will be temperate. It will not have excessive hot or cold climate. It will have some precipitation in the form of rain.  Each month there will be a week of rain. This is necessary for plants, animals and for us too. We will have mild summers and winters.  It will be pleasant in summer. During the cold season the temperature will not go under forty degrees Fahrenheit. A light coat will be sufficient to stay warm.  Spring and Autumn will be colorful .

The inhabitants will work to keep the planet clean and tidy. Each family will have one mode of transportation they will either have a car,bicycle,or motor cycle. There’ll be public transportation for those who prefer . The number of vehicles used on the road will be limited. This will eliminate pollution.

Education will be compulsory and free. Incentives will be given to hardworking students,this will be in the form of cash or something they need. The size of the classroom will not exceed twenty students. Books ,exercise books,pen and pencils will be provided for everyone.

Teachers will help students with their work after school whenever there is need.

The administrators of City Hall will meet once and discuss about the services provided to make sure there is no problem.

My planet will be a happy planet. Steps will be taken to keep everyone happy.