Do you believe in fate or do you believe you can control your destiny?
The prompt today, reminds me of my favorite song, Que Sera Sera, whatever will be will be.
When I was a little girl I never asked my mother what will I be. I knew nothing about fate or destiny. I was living each day to the fullest, I played with my siblings, I watched my mother cook, sometimes imitated her. Then I’d sit on the grass beside my Dad’s easy chair and talk to him for hours, of course this was after school and my Dad was back from work.
Then one morning at about ten AM . I heard a loud scream coming from Dad’s bedroom. We were playing i.e we the young ones. We stopped and rushed to Dad’s bedroom. There to my utmost horror I found my mother crying and my Dad was dying.
In one hour everything changed, we were crying , we had no idea our Dad had left us for good. Within six months we moved out of our precious home to go to an unknown place, it was my parents original homeland. There was no home waiting for us, my elder brother made arrangements to go to our maternal grandparents home in the village, until he could buy one in the small town nearby.
After six months my brother found a house for sale and bought it. If I were to guess what all this was called, I’d say it was our fate. We couldn’t control our Dad’s death, it would happen, it is here that God takes the reins in His hands. My Dad’s time was up, we couldn’t implore God to give us more time, His decree was final.
Sadly we understood,no one can change fate. It took us a long time, but we learned to accept it, and how cruel it is.
Destiny however was a challenge, I was twelve, with Dad’s passing there was no income, although Dad was an Assistant Secretary in the Ministry Of Defense, his family was denied pension, their argument was, he died before he was fifty-five years old, hence his family was ineligible for pension.
My Dad had provident fund where he had some money and life insurance. It probably was sufficient for us to live on for a while. Here my brother played with destiny and almost lost all of it by trying to invest in a business.
We realized soon enough we can change our destiny if we seriously studied and got a good education. Most of us siblings did that , accomplished our goal, except the two black sheep in the family, they had no desire to change.
I believe it’s possible to change our destiny if we put in the effort. I studied, got an education which helped me get a job. Had I done the opposite, I wouldn’t be doing this prompt today but struggling to survive!