365 Days: Pants on Fire

What was the last lie I told?

Why did I tell it?

It is difficult sometimes to answer questions our friends ask us. I was caught in this snare by one of my long time good friend.

I was asked if my daughter number two and number three call me, visit me or send Mother’s Day card. In my case these are very painful questions. I didn’t have the courage to tell the truth. I answered yes.

I questioned myself why did I do it? I was protecting myself, because my truth will for eons come to bite me. I thought these friends will think perhaps I’m a terrible mother. It hurt me immensely.

I was a full time teacher, yet I felt guilty leaving them with a baby sitter. I tried to give them as much time as I could. I’m unable to express what went wrong.

Then one day I told these same friends, no my two daughters do not call me or send me Mother’s day cards. I have learned to accept this fact.

These days I console myself by agreeing with Khalil Gibran where he says: your children do not belong to you, if they leave you let them, if they never come back, do not be sad, they were not yours to begin with.

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DP Daily Prompts: Sweet Little Lies

As kids we’re told , time and time again,that lying is wrong.Do you believe that’s always true?In your book, are there any exceptions?

Yes I can recall my mother telling me more than once, that lying is the biggest sin and God never forgives liars, at the same time she remarked, “if your life is in danger and lying will save you, God will forgive you.”

I’ve always told everyone this story, what they thought I never found out. As I was growing up, meeting more people taught me it’s not the only thing that saves you, there are varied circumstances when a lie helps the poor student to get motivated. I had a boy in my class who was very slow in his work, he’d look around and find all his classmates had finished the task while he was not even close to finishing it.

One day I watched him doing his work to make him feel better I said, “You’re doing good continue.”

These words of mine triggered something in his mind, he burst out crying, “Miss I’ll never make it,I will fail.”

I saw his concern, I had to say something to relieve his tension, I smiled and replied, “You are the best one in my class if you fail, no one will pass.”

Did I lie, partly, he was not the best student, but he was one of the boys who persevered and I did not believe he’d fail.

Kids sometimes cannot gauge their performance themselves, someone older or a teacher’s opinion makes them feel better.

In my teaching career I found out if the teacher is positive the student believes in himself or herself. If a lie helps a child to perform better I wouldn’t hesitate to say it!

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365 Writing Prompts: Pants on Fire

What was the last lie you told? Why did you tell it?

Whether it’s the last lie or not, I am not sure. We tell lies for many different reasons, if the lie helps the other person I do not consider it terrible.

Some time ago my brother-in-law went to Bangladesh for a short while, he did not return the day he was supposed to. My husband told me to call him,  I called his home number, there was no answer. My husband asked me to call his work number.

I got his number and called his office after a few rings someone answered . I asked to speak to my brother-in-law. He told me he was not back from Bangladesh.

When I asked him if he knew when he’ll be back, this is the message he gave me, “I don’t know when he’ll be back, I heard his mother died or something.”

My husband was slicing some meat, he asked me, “what did he say?”

I said, “he doesn’t know.”

I knew it was a lie but I couldn’t possibly tell him,”he is delayed because your mother died!”

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DP daily Prompt: You’re a Mean One, Mr. Grinch

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My least favorite quality in others is lying. There are people I know who think  lying is great ,because they look for sympathy from others. I think they’d learn their lesson some day when the people they confided in would find out they’ve been misled. It’ll turn out to be , “The boy who cried wolf story.”

We all have qualities that are least favorite. How can we not, we are humans. Some of us have qualities that are not too bad as long as it does not hurt others.

My least favorite personal quality is: I get angry too quickly without weighing out the situation. I do a few things I’m not proud of, I stop talking with the person for days. It seems my anger keeps building up instead of  abating. I do this with my siblings most of the time. If someone comes to talk to me I get angry with him/her too.  I try not to lie,from early childhood my Mom ingrained in me the fact that, “God will never forgive if you lie. The only time He will forgive you is when your life is in danger.”

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