Tell us about the harshest ,most difficult to hear— but accurate criticism you’ve ever gotten. Does it still apply?
When I was fourteen my newly married eldest brother, told me I was never going to be anything,because I did not put in the time to study, he was going to marry me off to a farmer, according to him ,it was the best punishment for me.
His new wife complained I was watching too many movies and wasting my time, I had only watched one movie with my aunt who wanted company, and asked me if I’d go with her to watch a movie.
My sister-in- law was peeved because she was not invited, she complained I was not studying.
The criticism was not accurate, I wasn’t a poor student, he knew that, he had to please his wife.
It certainly didn’t apply then and not now either.
Since that time I have successfully completed all the courses of studies I registered for. In the ensuing years he never repeated those terrible words, I did not give him any reason to.
One thing I’m sure about is my father, if he was alive then and heard my brother say those words to me, he’d tell him to pack his bags and leave.