I had the experience of being outside , looking in. I don’t like that feeling . I had this experience more than once. One of them was when my husband wanted to discuss their property issue with his brothers, I had to be out, because it was not related to me directly. It almost sounded like,”persona non grata”. I personally didn’t think they had all that much. The fact I am the wife gives me the right to know. What if something happens to my husband and the brothers take charge. By keeping me uninformed hurts him too. I know the system of writing a will is the best thing humans did. Sadly in villages nothing like that exists.