If you could slow down an action that usually zooms by, or speed up an event that normally drags on , which would you choose, and why?
I don’t mind going to parties hosted by friends every now and then, what is irritating about the ones I’m invited to seems to drag on.
Most people in my group of friends have no respect for time, if they are invited for a 6 pm dinner they show up at eight or even later, the hosts wait for every last person to serve the meal, then there is the practice of serving the men and children first and the women after the said people are taken care of.
I went to one once the time given was 6 pm but the guests started arriving after eight, by the time everyone was in, it was after 9;30 pm. I felt the time was dragging on, the hostess kept the food in the oven to keep it warm.
When finally the dinner was served at close to 10 pm in groups, the last group i.e the women were served at almost eleven o clock.
I always respect the time given, I had to wait for close to five hours to be served, by then the food was not fresh, the salad was not fit to eat as it happened to be what was left over after the previous group finished their meal.
I like the food to be served at the time given and everyone i.e men women and children should be served at the same time!
Relationships long or short they all take the same route i.e., giddiness,infatuation, mad passion,deep respect,esteem, friendship.
Some love stories do not follow quite in the same order, some die immediately after infatuation, some may go up to mad passion, then if one is lucky it might hit the deep respect stage.
Esteem and friendship I know not how they fit into this picture. I know what fits, hatred and disgusting.
Friendship I’ve heard when the couple is no longer married, they become friends, of course for the sake of the children. Who am I to criticize this phase it depends entirely on the couple.
Mine didn’t go through infatuation, giddiness, or mad passion, because it was arranged. We had respect for each other and we did fine, there was no unnecessary quarreling like little kids. We understood each other and did not complain about anything. My husband did his job and I did mine. We discussed when we wanted to buy a house, whether it was suitable for us, if we liked it we bought it. Our first house was a bungalow it was well-built and we loved it. When it was time to sell it we did,because we were leaving the town.
The house that I’m in now is our second house we bought. It’s comfortable, we have good friendly neighbors,everything we need is close by, we are doing fine.
Have you ever had a mentor? What was the greatest lesson you learned from him or her?
My answer to the first question is no,I did not have a mentor. Having said that I think my mom was my most influential mentor. She did not talk about studying or degrees I should have to get a job. She taught me some of the important facts of life. It might seem trivial to some,to me it helped me know between right or wrong.
Her aim was to raise us in such a way so everyone was proud of us. She stressed the importance of behavior with our elders, respect according to her was a two way street if you want respect you’d have to show it also.
Telling the truth at all cost was another one of her favorite topic. She once told me that I must never lie, she was very religious and did not hesitate to tell me what lying will cost me in the long run. ‘God will forgive your lies only if your life is in danger.”
She wanted us to be educated enough so we could take care of ourselves.