I think it is possible to be too honest. My mother said , ‘you must never lie,unless your life is in danger.’ I try to follow it. I also think , honesty is the best policy.
Once the principal of my school asked me to find out, which teacher forgets to turn off the lights in the grade four area before she goes home for lunch.
I asked all the grade four teachers, they all said,they do not forget to turn off the lights, before they leave for lunch, the days they are on duty.
I suddenly realized I never turn off the lights before I left for lunch whenever I was on duty. I also didn’t know this was the rule. I thought the custodian does that.
I went back and said, ‘Mr. Hancock all the teachers said they turn off the lights when they’re on duty.’
I knew I did not do it, I said, ‘Mr. Hancock I’m the only one who does not turn the lights off.’
He looked at me and said,’ No it’s not true.’
‘Yes it is,’ I said.
Mr. Hancock wasn’t upset, he could not believe I’d admit.
I am not a person who is very competitive.I went through school,college and university without competing.I was mostly happy with my performance.Competition I feel causes a lot of stress. Nothing brings out my competitive streak. Having said that there was once I felt it brought out my competitive streak full throttle.
My daughter Fatima was visiting me for a few days.One day she came and asked me,was I going to be busy that day.I told her I didn’t think and was curious to know what was on her mind. She wanted to play a game of scrabble and she was wondering if I would join her.This daughter of mine hated to lose,she grew up winning everything,my husband was not particularly happy if she lost.Because she created a holy fuss which amounted to slamming the doors,stamping the floor and screaming. My other two daughters were told to let her win,they were not thrilled with the idea but they hated to see the repercussion,if she lost.
I had a perfect chance to teach her about winning and losing.Immediately I made it clear to her,win or lose she will have to control herself,she promised to abide by my rule. We proceeded to play the game,my dormant competitive spirit woke up.I sat straight and concentrated on the game.I looked at every possible nook and corner to see how I could make a word and get a lot of points.Luckily I also got the letters with high points.Fatima was keeping the score and also looking at all the possible angles where she could get the triple word score.We were at it for half of the day. I managed to use out all my letters she couldn’t. I let her add the score, I won by probably about ten points.I won both ways I won the game and also taught her a very important lesson,how to lose gracefully. Remember this I told her,”Failure is the pillar of success.”